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Many small voices : guest post


Today I have a very important guest post to share with you. It’s written by the lady responsible for Many small voices.

I was asked by the lovely @8TOZERS to do a blog post about why I blog on Many Small Voices (MSV).

MSV was borne out of my own frustration of not being able to find comprehensive and detailed information on the internet regarding domestic abuse. I have recently come out of an emotionally and verbally abusive marriage. During the time that I was looking for help and information, I felt that it was scattered everywhere. I was reading and looking at many different websites and blogs to find the information that I needed to help me to pluck up the courage to leave my marriage.

Abuse is a difficult subject. Many friends and family members, when you ask for help with it, shy away as it is often too difficult for them to deal with and understand. Often people don’t really realise the extent of the abuse. Which is understandable, as it is often hidden, quite deliberately, by the abuser and also by the victim out of shame and confusion. Often, as was the case with me, victims don’t feel that the abuse is ‘severe’ enough to warrant real help from the police or from domestic abuse charities and organisations.

It is common for victims of abuse to feel very alone, and they usually are. Abusers deliberately isolate victims and can also ‘speak out’ first about incidents, ensuring their version of events becomes the general consensus.

I didn’t know I was in an abusive relationship. It wasn’t, in fact, always abusive, at least not as abusive. When the subtle and small controls sneak into your life, all you feel is confusion and pain. When things got worse and became intolerable, I finally realised that what was actually happening to me was abuse and so I began a long journey which started within myself. It was a long and painful journey into the depths of my soul. I faced some painful truths about myself and about my husband, about our life and the lives of our children.

Abuse profoundly effects everyone who is around it and yet at the same time becomes ‘normalised’. It is the most bizarre of situations to be in and yet all you want is the pain to stop.

I wrote to get things ‘out of my head’ and it helped me to find clarity for myself. I wrote just for me. I never dreamt that I’d end up sharing my writing with anyone. Never mind on a blog!

I left my husband at the end of last year. It was a scary thing for me to do. But it had to happen. For then on I have felt strongly that I’d like to help others who are going through similar, help them find access to as much information as possible in one place and find the strength to leave and find a better life. To know that it is possible to, even when it feels like it isn’t.

With the help of some very kind people and wonderful new friends who encouraged me to share my writing and who I will always remember for helping me to begin this journey, Many Small Voices was born.

I’m not out of the woods yet. I still have my journey to complete. But I sincerely hope that by writing my experiences and encouraging others to do so, I could possibly help at least one person to find their way safely out of an abusive situation.

The best people to tell the story of abuse are the people who have lived it, survived it and emerged stronger and happier. To all of the contributors to MSV I give a heartfelt thanks and I hope that you know that I am in awe of your strength because I know just what it takes to leave.

We are together, creating something real and amazing and we must continue to keep speaking up about our experiences.

Many Small Voices come together to create one loud voice against domestic abuse.

Many thanks to you all.

THANKYOU for reading this guest post. You can follow
Many small voices on twitter @ManySmallVoices and the blog can be found here

I don’t ask for retweets or follows for my own blog but I would like to ask that you follow many small voices , retweet , share , let people going through domestic abuse know that many small voices are there and !


The reason I blog : guest post


I’m feeling a little meh ! Right now … Tired , run down a lot of important stuff coming up so I haven’t got my blogging head on atall. I asked if anybody on twitter would like to write a guest post for me titled ” the reason I blog ” ( because I’m always interested to hear how and why people got into blogging.

This post is by the very lovely @emilymorgan88

Why did I start blogging?
Interesting question really. I don’t know. For me. Initially my blog was my diary. I was newly diagnosed with PND and I just wanted a place to keep my thoughts. I then started blogging about M a little. Trying to find my place in the parenting blog market. I’ve never had a massive readership. It was more of a place for me to keep record of things. This
Blog then got dropped, and picked up, and has been dropped a little more recently. This is for a few personal reasons, and because I don’t really know what to say anymore.

I then decided to start a new blog. This one has nothing to do with M, or depression. This is my journey to loose weight.
Why did I start this blog?
A photo.
A photo was taken of me by my friend Rachel. It was a picture of me sat on her sofa cuddling her new bundle of joy and M jumped in for cuddles too. It’s essentially a lovely photo. I however hate it. I hate me in the photo. I look huge, my thighs look ginormous, it made me sad and it made me want to change. I wanted to loose weight for the right reasons and I want to learn to love my body.
I’ve decided to blog about it because I need to. I need to document it. I need to record progress. I need it as a tool to not let myself down. I’ve made it public, my posts are linked directly to twitter so it’s fairly public. It makes me feel motivated to not fail.

I blog about my weightloss to feel I’m not alone. To hope it will inspire. I hope it keeps me going.
So when I’ve lost the weight I want I can look back on it and see the complete journey.
I’ve also decided I want to help others love their bodies. I want people to realise it’s not all about the size zero. It’s about being healthy and happy. M had been mentioned in a few posts. Not massively. I don’t know if I want to blog about M anymore. I don’t know if parent blogging is for me. Reading other parent blogs with children around M’s age has on occasion made me sweat and stare in a blind panic. I think I hit want to enjoy him.
I’m going to continue the weight loss blog though for sure. It feels nice to write my posts and to share the journey. It is my diary. It’s for me. I’m happy people are following it and commenting, as well as taking a general interest, it’s lovely and heart warming. This blog is for me though and the stats are just an added bonus.

Maybe I will pick up the other blog again some time, but for now it’s having another rest whilst I decide what I want to be. Stats became too important. Stats shouldn’t matter, should they?

For now my concentration lies on the one where I go for it. For now I’m happy with this blog and how excited it makes me feel. For now I want to concentrate on that.

So to answer your question, why did I start blogging?
I started for me and where it leads me, I’m willing to go.

You can find Emily’s blog here ….

She’s a lovely tweeter a lovely blogger and a lovely lady. Take a look.

Thanks for reading xx